An occasion for some riflection

My dear Friends,

what is forgiveness and should people always forgive their wrongdoers? Probably the answer of many of us is quite obvious when it comes to everyday life situations like having arguments, insulting others and being insulted, lying to each other etc. But what about such cases like murders, betrayals and infringements? Is it possible to forgive such delinquencies and continue to live without persistent sense of hatred and grief? 

This kind of reflection has come into my mind and completely broke my heart when I was visiting Auschwitz concentration camp last Saturday. I was familiarized nefore with the history about a ferocious treatment and extermination of people by the Nazi German, but it was extremely hard experience to realize that I was physically present in a zone where such horrible things had taken place. When I was walking there, I really couldn’t believe that everything that had happened was true. It was like a horror film, but based on real facts and evidences. Considering hard conditions in which prisoners had to live and work, the ferocity and brutal inhuman behavior of the Nazi German executors, there immediately appears a question, could they be forgiven by their numerous victims and members of the victims’ families?

I can hardly imagine myself in a place of these victims and try to forgive, but I know that forgiveness is an utterly powerful thing that can miraculously reconcile people, giving them an inner peace and happiness.

What about friendship?

Hello hello, my dear Friends! As I call you like this, an idea to talk about friends came into my mind. So in this article, let's think a bit about whom we consider our real friends and what actually friendship can be.

To tell the truth, every person, even the most introverted one, needs some relations with others to talk and to spend time together. In this way closer relations are built, and something more than a simple interaction connects the people. On one hand, in such situation, we start to consider our friends people we often meet and trust them the information regarding our intimate thoughts and personal experience, just like they trust theirs to us. On the other hand, it's a more complicated matter when it comes to long-lasting relations based on confidence and reciprocal relying on each other. The difference between friends and real friends is obvious, but sometimes we confuse this two terms and make a mistake when we consider someone our real friends.
There comes up immediately a question: is it possible that friendship is neverending and was it a real friendship that came to its end one day? In general, there are various opinions on this topic, but as it seems to be logical, friendship can be either temporary and permanent. Sometimes, we haven't got any influence on some events and life situations which cause debilitation of relations or even provoke a complete severance of relations. One thing we have to remember about is that everything is changeable, and even in case we are sure thare is no possibility a friendship with someone can end, we just have to be prapared to a potential disappointment in that person or simply to unexpected turn of events.
In conclusion, I would add that a real friendship is always verified by time, and often many years should pass after which we can be convinced that a person we call best frend is trustworthy and reliable.

Perfectionism: why is it dangerous?

Hello my dear Friends!
Today we're going to discuss one of the most problematical features that often disturbs people in usual way of living - perfectionism. Why is it so dangerous and what negative consequences should we expect from this kind of behaviour?
In the beginning we should add that there are, in fact, some positive aspects of being perfectionist. For example, a desire to do every task without fault or mistake can lead to the achievement of goals or help to achieve a huge success in job. But the accuracy and obsessive executing of everything in a perfect way have a slight difference.

Basically, perfectionists suffer from themselves as well as do the people the perfectionists are surrounded by. They are always striving to do everything flawlessly and requiring from others to keep high standards, which doesn't seem to be welcome and easily acceptable by others. What is more, people don't want to listen to a person that is always complaining on him/herself, on what could be done better but isn't, that is always unsatisfied with his/her or other's executing of any task in an imperfect way. Another negative aspect of being perfectionist is depression this kind of people fall into, and it's really very hard to convince such people not to despair after an insignificant failure. In other words, we have a duty to demand from ouselves to be conscientious and responsable, but also we have to remember about golden mean in everything and not to exagerate with critical self-evaluation and our evaluation of others.

How to keep good mood?

Hello dear Friends! :)
In this article we're going to discuss several ways of keeping your good mood for a long time or, in other words, how to fight the autumn's depression.

As it is widely known, people are often very moody, unsatisfied, sad or depressed. It could happen to us in every moment, espacially in autumn, when the beautiful weather is rare and the warm and sunny summer says us 'good bye'. So what can we do in such situations? First of all, everything is not so bad. In fact, there are periods in autumn, when we can observe such an amazing view: golden, green, orange, red and yellow leaves on trees, blue sky, sunshine and a little fresh wind, no rain, even though it's cold - so what? Go for a walk, look around, enjoy this colourful changing of trees, until they don't shed their leaves... Moreover, you can see how many families, pairs or just friends with their dogs walk in parks and appreciate this wonderful moments!
Secondly, try to meet your friends or do some activities with somebody as often as possible. The metter is that when you're alone, you're more concentrated on yourself, think obout your problems, sorrows, or on what is negative, so don't let these thoughts eat you! Spend more time with family or friends helping them, doing something funny together, watching a comedy or simply talking to them. It will help to share good emotions and enjoy being together.

Another example of effective ways of beating bad mood is just to eat some sweets ot chocolate bisquits! Sometimes, several pieces of chocolate or a cup of hot chocolate can make miracles! But don't esagerate with sweets, as you can be soon depressed because of needless kilograms ;)
Furthermore, listen to the positive and relaxing music, read some short and funny poems, stories, anecdotes, paint something colourful, use your imagination, instead of wasting your time for sadness and depression!

Finally, try to do your best to defeat your bad mood, because there's nothing better to feel good and enjoy your life!